Abi Dare’s new debut novel, “The Girl with the Louding Voice,” is compendious, Engaging, and very powerful. A powerful, emotional book in the unforgettable voice of a young Nigerian girl trapped in a life of slavery and bondage, which is exceptionally determined to fight for her dreams and goals. The story is based in Nigeria, and we all know that Nigeria and various other countries underdeveloped and developing countries have so many women suffering from poverty, illiteracy, and ignorance. Nigeria is a country located in West Africa. You can experience several verses of the tribal lives in this book.
“Adunni” was the center of this book, which is 14 years old Nigerian girl who narrates her own story. Adunni’s mother has told her to stand for herself and her dreams, and to do it; she has to raise her voice if needed. The only thing she wants in life is Education, and she never stopped dreaming about it despite several ups and downs and the challenges she faced in her life the entire book.
About the Author
Abi Daré grew up in Lagos, Nigeria and has lived in the UK for eighteen years. She studied law at the University of Wolverhampton and has an M.Sc. in International Project Management from Glasgow Caledonian University as well as an MA in Creative Writing at Birkbeck University of London. The Girl with the Louding Voice won The Bath Novel Award for unpublished manuscripts in 2018 and was also selected as a finalist in 2018 The Literary Consultancy Pen Factor competition. Abi lives in Essex with her husband and two daughters, who inspired her to write her debut novel.
Adunni’s mother, always advice her to speak her mind and be vocal for her future and needs. But despite, her father sold her as a third wife of a local older man in return for the community money. Addunni left with no option but to marry a man of her father’s age who is already married to 2 more women and had four daughters. She has to marry the older man because he wants an heir to his family.
Seychelles is a heaven on the earth surrounded by the lovely white sand beaches, Lagoons, Coconut trees, and sun. Indian families staying in the Middle East, Seychelles is one of the exotic destinations due to various reasons. Firstly, Its not that far, only a 4-5 hours flight away from Dubai. Secondly, it has a visa on arrival for Indian passport holders, and thirdly, it is a perfect place for both the Families and the Honeymooners. Seychelles Holidays is a costly but like a dream come true. People choose it as it is known as an expensive romantic destination and a favorite honeymoon hideaway of royalties and celebrities.
Luckily we got a deal from a good tour company for both Resort and Flight for our Seychelles Holidays. So, let’s explore the paradise with me through my experience. We took the early morning flight, and the reason behind that we can check in Hotel or Resorts around 9 – 10 A.M. Later, we will get a whole day to plan our Itinerary for the rest of the trip, and we can comfortably relax and get ready for the next day with new energy and good vibes.
When to visit Seychelles
The most favorable time to visit Seychelles in April, May, October, and November. Rain, sometimes frequent December-February. During the drier months between May and September, the southeast trade winds can bring breezy comfort, but will also mean rougher sea.
“Humans, don’t you think you are living in a different world? Don’t you see that water, Air, and Sky is more beautiful than ever before? Now Human is caged, and Wildlife is moving on the roads freely.
Human beings were so relaxed and ignorant a few months back. We used to travel for vacations; the Economy was booming; We were spending fuel, water, and electricity without even thinking about our future generation.
Race, race, and only race….. It has become the ultimate goal of our life to succeed in all the parameters. We always run to succeed in our goals, career, personal and professional lives no matter where it takes us at the end. Certainly, we always believe in getting or taking everything from Nature without even thinking a single time about returning back. However, It’s bad that we never understood our responsibility – the bitter truth is that we have been extremely SELFISH! And we are still SELFISH.
We are encompassed in a small cabin / four-wall home, and just looking left right and comparing ourselves and be sad/ happy, that’s again nature’s creation. We, as human beings should think further and bigger about what is needed for the world, not just about a place surrounded by four walls!
Humans cut so many trees and forests to adjust ourselves In the existing environment and make way for a town. So, imagine if there is no forest, then life will also deplete. We are also rapidly changing the environment by adding too much waste to it in various forms. I don’t want to comment on any one’s eating habit that entirely a personal choice, but what if we purposefully destroying the ecosystem by killing the animals without even thinking about the aftermath of all these. During our school and college, we studied how plants, animals, and birds are dependent on each for the smooth functioning of our Nature.
Genre: Non-Fiction Publisher: Penguin Random House UK Pages: 185 Rating: 4.5/5
IKIGAI is a Japanese word that has several meanings, but I like the one which is “Your Inner Inspiration.” Hector Garcia and Francesc Miralles wrote this book. First of all, according to the Japanese, everyone has an Ikigai – few are successful in finding it, or rest are still struggling to understand it. For instance, the best line which I liked a lot in this book is “our Ikigai is the reason we get up in the morning.”
Certainly, this book was successful in touching the various aspect of the Japanese concept of longevity and happiness, and aptly explained the term – IKIGAI. The book revolves around the lifestyle of the older adults and similarly shows examples from Okinawa – a beautiful island with the most centenarians in the world. It is an island of almost eternal youth. In ancient times there was saying a healthy mind recites in a healthy body. The same saying supported in this book but a more detailed and explained manner. The book says always tries to keep yourself busy and feed healthy stuff to your body. In addition, engage your mind with new things and new learning like games, puzzles and try to keep a bay from the stress are critical as anti-aging.
However, modern human beings are more prone to take stress in various forms. We should be more mindful of using our screen time as it leads to stress, and stress weakens the cells and promote aging.
Stress has become an integral part of our lives these days but life will indeed be a fantastic journey if we positively take charge of our health. So, you can do various things starting from Yoga, Meditation, Prayanama, Gym, and a healthy lifestyle.
During ancient times people used to give loads of emphasis on Yoga and meditation, but nowadays they want quick results with Gym and HIIT Trainings. Yoga is not gender-specific; it is for both males and females, but few specific poses will give extraordinary results to females.
Every day they juggling between the family and the work. Running after the kids, preparing the meals, to-do list, activities for the kids, and so many never-ending tasks left them with no energy but stress only.
Being a mother of a kid, I would highly recommend you take care of yourself because if we are not fit and active, then who will take care of the family and the children. I find Yoga and Meditation as my best pals for stress relief.
Try to take out time from your busy schedule, and Yoga will be the easiest and less time-consuming option for you. Firstly, yoga gives flexibility and balance by strengthening the muscles and stretching tight ones. Secondly, meditation helps in reducing stress and brings more calmness to your mind and nerves.
Therefore, I will share the details of a few Yoga poses which will help you reduce the day to day stress, revive your senses and provides you flexibility and strength.
Bow Pose or Dhanurasana
Bow Pose, or Dhanurasana, comes under Hatha yoga and is a great spinal cord, heart, Thigh, and Abdomen. This yoga pose is very useful for the entire front body and improves posture. In addition to this, it is very much effective for digestion, and the nervous system.
Nowadays, it seems like we are living in a “different world” due to the outbreak of CoronaVirus (Covid-19). For time being, several countries are imposing the policies not to use the restaurants, cinemas, not even gym and swimming pool; Schools are closed, e-learning is promoted, malls & markets are almost empty. People are scared, and everyone is taking all the serious precautions. While the corporate world is encouraging WFH (Work from home) to fight the Corona-crisis, this is the time to think over that “how one should effectively use the work from home”. Few people are already used to WFH, whereas many are still adjusting to this new atmosphere and Work from home culture.
one can save nearly 20% extra time of “Effective Office hours (let’s assume that we start getting ready for office at 07:30 AM, start driving at 08:00 AM – reach office at 08:30 AM, work until 05:00 PM then reach back home around 06:00 PM). This means around 11 hours when going to office vs. 08 hours when you do WFH (Work from Home). Females may take a little longer to get ready 😊.
“Are you sure you want to go to the sales stream or want to be a Female salesperson? Why don’t you do some course which will be easy for you.” Why don’t you change your stream? “You have to travel a lot.” “Who will look after the kids when you will be out the whole day for the meetings?.”
Probably, these are a few common comments or suggestions which people gave before judging a female salesperson. But it is not the end, loads of judgments, sacrifices, and misunderstandings, women might face a lot. I would say that the life of a salesperson is always challenging, either it is a male or a female.
Various sales movies in the past used to show the main character as a male always, People thought these tough roles are for the male. Time has changed now, and if you search now, then most of the top-performing salespeople are women.
Unlike the past now, you can find the name of several female salespeople in the list of top leaders. Women have registered their presence in almost all fields, including sales. Above all, if we will refer to LinkedIn statistics, it indicates that women represent 41% of the active sales workforce — and it’s growing.
There are no hard and fast rules that only guys can perform to achieve sales. But the traits you need to close more sales are gender-impartial. I would say it is all about your relationship-building skills, right attitude, rapport building and understanding your customers’ needs.
As per my learning and the experience I think the following traits would make a female salesperson a star and help to achieve their goals:-
Be a good Listener:
The client always wants to see a person who likes to listen to their issues. They are happy about it because they know you are listening to them, and they can trust you. As a female salesperson, if you are not a good listener, whereas most of the time you prefer to talk, you may not understand the concerns of your clients. And it applies to both male and female salespeople.
If you are a good listener, then it will be easy for you to build great relationships and networking. Female Salesperson, those who are good at relationship building they generally end up hitting all the goals. “People buy from those they like, not the product they like.” Focus on helping your prospect or achieving their company’s needs, not just making sales.
Keep your Emotional Intelligence high:
People say women are emotional and can’t make rational decisions. I would say this is the unique quality that keeps them apart from men; they have empathy and feel and understand other persons’ needs well. You should always know what is running in another person’s mind and know exactly how to customize the conversation based on indications of their prospects.
Learn Quickly and know your product better:
As a woman, if you want to succeed in this men’s world, then always ready for the changes and be quick to adapt all the technologies and situations around you. Continually update your knowledge and skills as per the market and the requirements of the product.
Set your trends:
Figure out the things which are suitable for your personality, and your customers also like it, don’t just blindly follow anyone. Try to be the person that everyone turns to for guidance, and help. I saw various female sales executives, at some point in their careers, start thinking, or behaving to be a part of the male’s club. So, try to be original and comprehend your skills, strengths. Similarly, believe you have the charm and the intelligence which always set you apart from others. I’m hesitant to categorize selling styles as male versus female salesperson, it’s great to have a diverse selling style. As a result, understand your weaknesses and work on your strengths.
Always be confident and natural
Confidence is a jewel which no one can steal from you unless you allow them. Courage and your inner strength will never let you down, no matter what the circumstances are. Therefore, always be great with your strengths – be a great communicator and listener. Trust in your intuitions well.
Take a Stand for yourself and step out of your comfort zone:
Certainly, always take stand for yourself and for what is right. If you are clear about your thoughts and ideas, take a stand for it even if it will take time to convince others. Buyers don’t have time to beat around the bush. Be to the point and quick in your approach.
Don’t shy away with the thoughts you carry in your mind. Always try to speak your mind. Sometimes it will be challenging, but it would be great if you bring your thoughts and ideas on the table for discussion. Because It will be helpful for you to make your reputation and your value to the organization will be visible. Hence, ask questions and clear doubts. Share your point of view if it was asked or you can share the details or any changes you know that can bring a good chance in the organization.
Get yourself a sales mentor or a guide:
Have a sales mentor or a guide who helps you with the enlightenment and guidance whenever needed. It will boost your self-esteem. They always help you to solve various career-related issues. It is still great to consult the multiple leaders from the industries; which will bring the best of you or sometimes change your perspective. Furthermore, It is not necessary to have someone from outside; you can learn from books, presentations and from your own experiences. You can follow any Women leader or a female salesperson on LinkedIn and get more insights and learnings.
Lastly, never settle for the less:
Never settle for the average results but always strive for the best. Similarly, always try to polish yourself and outshine. Please work with your team and be a leader to whom they look upon. Therefore, as a female salesperson learn new things and implement them for the betterment of the organization.
Finally, being a female is not hard to be industrious or develop great relationships. Firstly, They need some support from everywhere, either it is a family or a company. If either of them will not understand the value or trust them, it will be more robust for them to perform with all the hurdles. Secondly, The female salesperson is a crucial part of any organization as they bring charm, persistence, and new ideas to the organizations. Therefore, It’s not essential always to act like a man to bring results, perform in your skin and follow your style. Be consistent in your approach and at the end believe in yourself !!
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I think weekends are the best to explore new place and food. In search of a great Thai food, google took us to Benjarong- Dusit Thani for Friday Brunch.
What attracts us the most was its lovely location with the great view. Benjarong is Positioned at the 24th Floor of Dusit Thani Dubai. It is an award winning Thai restaurant which serves royal flavors and aromas of Royal Thai cuisine. The restaurant’s royal interior resembles the imperial dining halls of some kingdom of the ancient time. The great Thai music add more charm and authenticity to the ambiance. They have a buffet are as well outside the restaurant which is also very lively. When you will take your seat in the restaurant you will feel as if you are in Thailand with all those authentic aromas, ambiance, and music and off course food.
The hospitality was great just like the ambiance. We decided to order through the menu. We ordered few Vegetarian delicacies and trust me they all were amazing and mouthwatering delicious. The staff was courteous enough and explained about all the dishes in the menu. They customized few of the dishes as per our taste and choice. Appetizers were amazing and delicious. We wnt so over the board that ordered both “Gaeng Kiew Wan (Green Thai Curry with loads of veggies) and Gaeng Phed (Red Thai Curry).” Those were mouthwatering and the best part that we got them as per our choices. We tasted the best “Khao Neaw Mamaung” Sticky rice with coconut cream and ripe mango.
Average Cost: Approx. AED 425 for two people (Non Veg Food). AED 300 for two people (Veg Food). They accept both cash and cards. They have Zomato gold and Entertainer offers as well.
Genre: Non-Fiction Publisher: Rupa Publications Pages: 184 Rating: 4/5
President of Jagran Prakashan Ltd., Apurva Purohit, is an Indian Businesswoman who wrote this great book about the life of the women and their various experiences in phases of life.
Through her corporate world, understanding and her experience of working in a media field bring many colors to this book. Nowadays, it is tough for a woman to compromise on any [part of life, whether it is a career or her personal life. She is ready to deal with every crisis. This book brings loads of moments where you will feel like “Ohh my god that’s me or has she written about me 😊”.
The best part of the book was the short tales she used as her style, which brings the message at the end in the form of humor and reality. She bought her own personal experiences and mentioned about her family members.
This book of her can be a medium of learning the corporate mantra for the women through a Woman.
Today’s woman is unstoppable and they want to win all the fronts of their life. Being a working woman myself and a mother of a kid, I found myself in a situation several times when I have to struggle between personal and professional choices and decide to prioritize between Husband, Kid or work. The Responsibility of dealing with never-ending deadlines, preoccupied husband, Challenging bosses, Stubborn kids, nosy colleagues, and equally demanding in-laws can be crushing several times. Any working mom can relate to this book quickly. You will not find anything new and extraordinary in this book, but whatever incidences and events mentioned in it can be easily relatable with your own life. The book goes witty from time to time, and I am sure no one can stop laughing with watery eyes.
I have summarized a few marvelous points from the book for my reference but want to mention here as well:
Accept your femininity the way it is. No matter what people say, be confident, and accept the way you are.
Dream big and high, but be prepared that you cannot achieve everything in one go. Everything takes its own time and never loses hope and confidence. , you can have it, but not all at the same time.
A woman can only understand the charm of multitasking because they are born to do multitask and end up doing more work.
Every woman faces a phase in their life when they have to take a break from their career to raise a responsible human being for society. Cherish it and wear it as a crown as no one else can do it better than you.
Women grow smart and confident with age. Invest time and money on yourself.
If a woman wants to fly or to touch the stars, no one can stop her, but only she, her inner fear, or her fellow women counterparts. Just keep yourself in their shoes and try to understand the situation as a fellow woman.
There is no shame in asking for help. We all need support at some or other points of our life. Trust it will make us stronger as we can focus on other essential things in our life.
Don’t play the woman’s card, and always believe in your hard work and commitment towards your work. Never take advantage of the privileges given to you as a woman.
Women should never shy away from making great relationships and networking. They must understand that we should build great relationships beyond work and use the power of networking. Several times women forget this crucial aspect of the corporate world due to the commitments towards the family.
We all get only one life and being a woman; sometimes, it is challenging to play so many roles together. There are so many women out there who are not fortunate to get the right education and opportunities in life. We should feel blessed and choose our choices wisely in life.
So many girls, Women, and their parents start thinking about marriage and motherhood very early in their life and career. They start diverting there focus from the work to their personal life. It is also an important decision in life, but the right achievements at the right time are always great.
Men can also learn several things from this book. I am sure it can be an eye-opener for them when they see the roles all the women in their life play at different stages.
I enjoyed reading it and got motivated as well.
Come on ladies get a copy for yourself and experience the your corporate world’s challenges from the writer’s pen :-).
I recently visited a place called @mygovindas for my quick dinner. I thought it would be a typical Vegetarian restaurant, but actually, I was super wrong.
MyGovinda’s is fantastic in terms of ambiance and staff services. The food was super delicious. You will each and everything which you will think that can’t be done without onion and garlic, but let me correct you. Every bite of the food was delicious and filling. You will see the frames and statues of Radha and Krishna around, which make the dining experience more lively and meaningful. The background music will give you a feel of an ISKCON Temple.
When you park your car outside the restaurant, you will find a fridge that is for the people who can not afford to buy the food. The staff is very caring and supportive of the service. My Govinda’s in Karama, Dubai, is a perfect place for the quiet, happy place for lunch/dinner with the family. Very much near from the Burjuman Metro station.
Recommend it to all vegetarian food lovers. Just go and try once.