Publisher: Hay House
Author: Vex King
I have a long list of self-help books currently present in my Library (Not at all showing off :-)). I got attracted to this book of course because of its title and secondly, it is the first book by the Instagram guru “Vex King”. As mentioned earlier there are several self-help books around us written by various life coaches and business legends, but I found it a bit different because of its punchy and crispy content. I have no shame to commit that earlier this book I was not at all aware of the author Vex King.
A very nicely designed book, focussing on the concept of “Self Love“, aiming and claiming to improve your life better than your yesterday’s version.
Stop trying to impress people. Impress yourself. Stretch yourself. Test yourself. Be the best version of you that you can be.
Vex’s define the Self – love as:
Self-love is the balance between accepting yourself as you are while knowing you deserve better, and then working towards it.
This initial part of the book was extremely engrossing and equally connecting at the same time. To my surprise like a few other writers, he was not only focussing on his book but he mentioned various famous books and what else we can learn from them. He mentioned the law of Attraction from the book The Secret. “Kudos to Mr. Vex for this”.
This book is divided into various small parts and each part has been presented well with the various real-life examples and the inspiring quotes. Let’s have a glimpse at the various parts of the Book:
- Part 1: A Matter of Vibes
- Part 2: Positive Lifestyle Habits
- Part 3: Make Yourself A Priority
- Part 4: Accepting Yourself
- Part 5: Manifesting Goals: Mind Work
- Part 6: Manifesting Goals: Taking ActionPart Seven: Pain and Purpose
This book focuses on lots of topics which you will find common in the other personal development or self- help books such as the Law of attraction, Law of vibrations, finding inspirations, choose between negative and positive people, body language, Self-Love, Inculcating good habits, good eating habits, changing your environment, work on your affirmations, understanding the subconscious mind, the power of thought and of course, setting goals. All these make this book a very easy to read, handy non- in addition to anybody’s bookshelf. You will find several wonderful and meaningful quotes, and they are easily creatively summarising the topics. Vex didn’t hesitate to give various examples from his own life and the learnings he received from them.
A lot has been discussed about the toxic relationships and the negative people in the book. The idea is that every relationship teaches you something in your life either it is good or bad but everything acts a great amount of learning for our life.
Simplify your circle of friends. Keep those who add value to your life; remove those who don't. Less is always more when your less means more.
I like the thought of observing your behavior as well before complaining about the people around you and the surroundings. Always review your behavior and make an effort to change any that are toxic – towards yourself and others.
So, overall I found this book interesting and engaging but not great. In the beginning, he discussed various aspects and I got a feeling that he was revising my memory of various other self-improvement books. We all know it is great to change yourself and you’re through the process to achieve greatness in life and it all starts with your mindset. The idea of self-love is great but not fully discussed here from all the angles. However, this book is amazing in terms of giving greatly rememberable and shareable quotes. The author has a simple and nice style of writing. So, this book is great for the new beginners, If you haven’t read much about self-love, personal development, self-improvement, the law of attraction, etc.
Step out of your comfort zone and face your fears. Growth takes place when you are challenged, not when you are comfortable.